I’ve been in and out of it the last few days. I’ve been just so exhausted and mostly just been sleeping, probably the flu. I don’t have much to say so instead I will toss out some drafts I was working on instead of any diary updates for today. One thing that I have gotten done is that, I’ve got my YouTube feed hashed out some. It will be a stiched-together composite of my bird cam video feed with a poor-quality voice-over of what I’ve learned about the birds visiting my bird feeder. It would be a neat way to learn about birds since I don’t have enough time to run down to the park to watch constantly. The website will slowly start to focus more and more on bird watching and less on the emotional hardship that I’ve been going through with the loss of my girlfriend. I still am completely in disbelief that she did this to me and threw everything we had together away. It’s unfortunate; I just am processing it all one day at a time. My goal is to start focusing more on birding and photography, and I don’t know what the blog will become. It might just become a diary or journal in the end. I doubt I’ll have time to make it into anything educational or enriching. I’ve also got to figure out where I’m planning to put my weight loss information at. I have kind of plateaued since my girlfriend left me, and it’s been hard to focus on anything. I’d love to figure that out as well though.
As I sit here reminiscing, I can’t help but think of my grandmother’s long-haired gray-black cat. Despite being a beautiful feline, it was always in a bad mood, hissing and growling at me whenever I tried to get close to it. I remember chasing it under the dining table, desperate to play with it, but it would always run away from me. Looking back, I realize that the cat may not have been as mean as I thought it was. Perhaps I was just an overly enthusiastic kid who didn’t give the cat enough time to warm up to me.
It was only a few years ago that I finally got my cats – two adorable sisters who were fostered from a young age. However, just like my grandmother’s cat, they, too, were not fond of strangers and would often run away and hide when visitors came over. This made me reflect on how our perspectives and the information we have can significantly impact our understanding of a situation. Things are seldom as black and white as they seem, and it’s essential to take a step back and consider all the factors at play before jumping to conclusions.
You always find out who your friends are in the end. I have always felt like real friends don’t truly exist. People stick around when it works out and they leave when it doesn’t. There’s nothing wrong with that and it really is only natural for people to be that way. But everyone tries to sell you on the fact that they will somehow be different. That they aren’t just the same as everyone else and in my experience the ones that want you to believe they are special are the ones that are worst of the lot.
I can think of so many times in my life where I have seen this come true. One of the earliest was with my father. He had a close friend that he drank with all the time. They would work on projects and hunt together, but mostly, they got drunk together. That was what their relationship was really about. They’d drink so much that they eventually started recycling beer cans and had collector’s items from beer companies from all the tabs and sweepstakes-type junk. They were true alcoholics and proud of it. That was until my dad had a stroke. When that happened, everything changed. His best bud disappeared almost overnight. Even after Dad mainly recovered, and I use mostly loosely here because he was never the same guy, his best friend quit coming over little by little. You see, Dad couldn’t drink like he used to or be one of the guys. So, his friend didn’t have a reason to be my dad’s buddy anymore.
That’s just one example of what I mean. I saw this kind of thing happen over and over throughout the years, and it has always stuck with me and made me realize how impermanent and fickle relationships are. People always brag about how they have been best friends with someone since high school, but usually, when I pry into what that means, it’s just a facade. Sure, they chat from time to time on the phone. They’ll even get together once every few years to celebrate their friendship, but they both know those days are gone. They are just celebrating what was and not what is now. I find that friendship the saddest of them all when you think about it.